Thursday, 22 May 2014

A Special Love

Hi guys!

Tonight I'm taking a quick break from studying to tell you about a special love of mine- my love for books. There are few things more calming than cuddling up in bed with a good book and getting lost in it for a few hours.

My mama will attest to the fact that when I am on holiday in Australia staying with her, I will sometimes hole myself up in my bedroom for hours on end, consuming one book after another.

I would literally rather spend my spare time reading than going to a party (that is, unless said party involves karaoke...)

So now, I would like to recommend some of my favourite books to you guys. These are all books straight off my own bookshelf...books that I loved so much that I simply HAD to have a copy of my own to keep. Let me know if you've read/would like to read any of these- I'd love to hear from you!


The first book is a classic: "Jane Eyre" by Charlotte Bronte. I first read this book when I did a study on it in English class in my final year of high school. I find Jane's character so relatable, and always admire her strength through tough and unjust circumstances. There is also suspense in this book that will keep you on your toes, as well as romance. The perfect mix, in my opinion.




The next book I want to talk about is "The Shunning" by Beverly Lewis. This book is an incredible tale about finding yourself and what you believe, in a world where you are surrounded by people telling you what to say and do, or you will be "shunned". It made me look deep inside myself and ask "would I still hold fast to my faith, even if it meant having to leave everything I know and everyone I love behind?" This is a beautifully written story- I couldn't put it down.



"The Shack" by WM. Paul Young made me think about God and Christianity in ways that I never had before. It made me question what "faith" really means, and what a real relationship with God looks like. It also confronts the hard questions, such as "Where is God when I am hurting?" and "Why do bad things happen to good people?" I recommend this book to everyone, but especially Christians who want to have their relationship with God re-ignited and see His Father heart in a new way.  




The Hunger Games Trilogy by Suzanne Collins have become recent favourites of mine. These books carry beautiful metaphors of love being about sacrifice, and show how empathy and the human spirit can still survive beneath terrible oppression. They are also incredibly well written- I devoured the entire series in a weekend :)



I own all 6 of Jane Austen's published works, and I think that all of them are fantastic. The female characters are especially well-rounded. They are witty, sarcastic, strong, and yet charming. These are women that would have gone against the grain of the time period that they were in. The men are dashing, mysterious, and chivalrous. The romances are sweet, elegant, and understated. These are must-reads for all book-lovers, in my opinion.



Ahhh, The Babysitters Club. Sweet, sweet nostalgia. God bless you, Ann M. Martin! This photo is of just one of my 400 (yes, 400!) Babysitters Club books that I own. I've been collecting them since I was nine. I grew up with the characters in these simple, sweet, wholesome novels. They have great messages such as teamwork, friendship, and the importance of family. The books also deal with sensitive topics such as death, divorce, racism, and domestic abuse in ways that are both honest and age-appropriate. Also, some of the supporting characters add great humour to the stories. They're a really easy read, and I still love them now, even as a 24-year-old.






"The Fault In Our Stars"by John Green is really hot right now, and for good reason. This book is incredibly well-written and heart-warming. It is honest and witty, sad and joyful. You will get swept up in the story, and charmed by the characters. I also can't wait for the movie to come out soon! Finally, it must be said that John Green is simply the best at everything. Ever.



"Little Women" by Louisa May Alcott was one of my absolute favourite books as a teenager, and I still love it to this day. I felt really connected to the characters, in particular Jo March. I still maintain that she is the book character I relate to the most out of any book I've ever read. This book is a classic, and one that I will definitely share with my children one day, when they are old enough. I look forward to sitting on my little girl's bed and reading to her each night before she goes to sleep, just like my mama used to do for me. I look forward to hearing her say "Just one more chapter mama! Pleeeease!" And I look forward to smiling down at her, tired as I may be, and saying "Of course, sweetheart".



And lastly, "Redeeming Love" by Francine Rivers. This book is a modern-day, loose interpretation of the book of Hosea in the Bible. It will break your heart. It will make you cry. It will open your eyes to people. It will open your eyes to love. You will be reminded of how God loves us: Gently. Passionately. Unconditionally. Forever.


There you go guys! I hope you all have a great week, and thanks for reading :)

Love,

Melanie Raye.




Monday, 10 February 2014

Gentle Parenting

Hey guys!
Recently I've been reading up on a phenomenon/ philosophy called "gentle parenting". Basically, it combines elements of attachment parenting and positive child guidance (both of which you guys already know that I'm a fan of).

I really like that there are people out there who are pro-actively looking for ways to improve how they parent, rather than just accepting the way they were brought up, or the "norm" (e.g. spanking or time-out).

I am actively trying to incorporate elements of gentle parenting into my practice as an ECE teacher. Some examples of this are:

Walking across the room and getting down to a child's level and speaking in a soft voice to them when I want to help them regulate their behaviour, as opposed to raising my voice at them from across the room.

Telling I child what I want to see them do, instead of telling them what I don't want to see.

Offering children more choices instead of always giving direct instructions.

Always believing in the child, and their abilities, celebrating what they are capable of instead of stressing over what they can't yet do.

Making sure that my words and actions towards them are always seasoned with love and grace, just as our heavenly Father is loving and gracious towards us.

Now, I know that sometimes my ideals don't always come to fruition, but my belief is that if I aim for the moon and miss, then at least I'll land among the stars :)

I hope this blog can help some of you guys, as much as it helps me :)

Love,

Melanie Raye.

Tuesday, 15 October 2013

The 6 "L's" of Positive Guidance

Hey guys! Just wanted to share with you the 6 L's of positive child guidance that I came up with for a Toastmasters speech.

Level- get down to the child's level.
Look- make eye contact.
Listen- find out what the child is feeling. Use your eyes and touch to listen as well as your ears.
Logical Consequences- let natural consequences rule- eg, you make the mess, you clean it up.
Lesson- recap with the child : "what did we learn from this?"
Love- hugs, kisses, let the child feel reconciled to you and other offended parties. When it's over, let it be over. Don't hold a grudge.

There ya go!

Love,
Melanie Raye.

Friday, 29 June 2012

"The Dance"

Hey guys- it has been a long time coming, but this is my new original song, I hope you like it.

The Dance

I come to the mountain
You're waiting
Hoping You'll see me
You're wearing a white robe
Your loving eyes are burning

I shrink back, I'm scared that
Maybe I'm unworthy
My dress is in tatters
How could I please the King?

You reach out Your hand and
Suddenly we're so close
And I see

The clouds are rolling back
The clouds are rolling back
There's no more time for masks
I see You, You see me

You've come in Your glory
You've come in Your glory
Just so You can meet with me
I see You, You see me

You're leading, I follow
Sometimes these steps are hard
You spin me, and I know
You'll catch me if I fall

You lift me, I trust You
And then You dip me down
I'm no longer wearing rags
You've made me a new gown

The clouds are rolling back
The clouds are rolling back
There's no more time for masks
I see You, You see me

You've come in Your glory
You've come in Your glory
Just so You can meet with me
I see You, You see me

This is the dance,
This was Your plan,
To make me Your princess,
Your bride, and Your friend

The clouds are rolling back
The clouds are rolling back
There's no more time for masks
I see You, You see me

You've come in Your glory
You've come in Your glory
Just so You can meet with me
I see You, You see me





Love,

Melanie Raye.