Hello, dear readers!
I saw this today, and I want..no, I NEED to respond.
There is a story in the Bible, in Mark chapter 2, where Jesus was inside a house, preaching and healing people, and quite a crowd had gathered.
There was a man in the neighborhood who could not walk, so 3 of his friends took him to see Jesus. But when they got there, they could not get through the door! So they literally broke a hole in the roof and lowered the man down through it, right at the feet of Jesus.
And how did Jesus respond? Did he say "You twats, use the freaking door like a normal person"?
No, no He did not. Instead, He met the man's needs, and said " Your sins are forgiven, now pick up your mat and walk".
Philippians 2:5 tells us that our "attitude should be the same as that of Christ Jesus".
There is another Bible story, a parable that Jesus told (in Luke 10:25-37) that talks of a man who was attacked by robbers, and left to die.
A priest and a Levite both walked past, but ignored the man and crossed over on the other side. Now, from a purely legal standpoint, they had done nothing wrong by reacting this way.
But then a Samaritan walked by- a man from another culture, potentially even an enemy of the injured man, with no legal or cultural obligations to the injured man at all.
But the Samaritan stopped, tended the man's wounds, placed the man on his own donkey, and took the man to an inn where he could be taken care of, and the Samaritan even footed the bill himself.
Jesus finished his story, and asked his audience "Who acted more like a neighbour to the injured man?"
To which someone replied "The one who had mercy on him".
I will leave you with Jesus' response:
"Now go and do likewise".
Love,
Melanie Raye.
Friday, 18 November 2016
Sunday, 13 November 2016
It's Time I Spoke Up.
Hello dearest readers <3
Before I begin, I want to say that I know a lot of you are currently feeling a lot of feelings about the presidential election. Please trust my heart when I say that I have no intention of adding to your pain and confusion by discussing my thoughts and feelings here.
With that said, I know that I need to make this post today, and I will tell you why.
Yesterday, I was in church, just like basically every Sunday morning. The preacher was nearing the end of his message, when he somehow randomly segwayed into talking about the presidential election. And then, he said it. "I think we could even call Donald Trump's election as president to be a miracle". A few people in the congregation cheered and clapped.
But me? I just made myself as small in my seat as I could, and all I could manage was a quiet, desperate whisper: "no...no...".
You see, I was not prepared in that moment to share my thoughts. Neither do I think it would have necessarily been the right moment or the right platform in which to voice my opinion. It's not my pulpit, after all.
But for the last 24 hours, I have felt sick to my stomach. I believe that the standard I walk past is the standard I accept, and I know that evil prevails when good men do nothing (Edmund Burke).
Therefore, it is time that I spoke up. I cannot be silent anymore.
I hope you will believe that "my words come from an upright heart. My lips sincerely speak what I know" (Job 33:3).
I have unfortunately seen some people speaking in such a way that it appears that they believe that Donald Trump is a good voice to have in authority, from a Christian perspective. So, in response to this, I am going to make some comparisons between what the Bible says and what Trump says, since the Bible implores us to "test everything, and hold on to what is good" (1st Thessalonians 5:21).
Now, some of you are probably saying "But what about Hillary?" Trust me, if she were the one in power, I could easily complete this same exercise with her. (Psalm 139, anyone?) But she has not just been elected POTUS, so she is not my concern right now.
So here goes:
The Bible says: The love of money is the root of all evil. (1st Timothy 6:10).
Trump says: Money money money money, MONEY! (The Apprentice Theme Song).
The Bible says: Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is sufficient for building others up, according to their needs, so that it benefits everyone who is listening. (Ephesians 4:29).
Trump says: "It was just locker room talk".
The Bible says: The Lord detests differing weights, and dishonest scales do not please him. (Proverbs 20:23).
Trump: brags about tax evasion. (And even though there is the question of whether his dealings were "legal" or not, that is a different issue from whether or not it was morally right).
The Bible says: I was a stranger, and you invited me in. (Matthew 25:35).
Trump says: Let's send all the illegal immigrants back to where they came from. Let's build a wall between us and Mexico. Oh, and they have to pay for it, too.
And for those of you who might get stuck on the train of "it's just the illegal immigrants he wants to get rid of", remember: Jesus was basically an illegal immigrant too, when he and his parents escaped to Egypt as a young child. Also, remember, "Whatever you do to the least of these, my children, you also do to me" (Matthew 25:40). Right now, I would say that the "least of these" is anyone that has felt threatened or marginalised by Trump and his supporters.
The Bible says: When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home. (John 19:25-27).
This passage shows that Jesus respected women, and ensured that they would be cared for.
Trump says: I'll just let you look this one up yourselves...
The Bible says: The worker deserves his wages (1 Timothy 5:18).
Trump says: I want all the jobs to go to American workers.
(That doesn't really give workers of other nationalities a fair chance to earn their wages, does it?)
So there you have it.
In my eyes, Trump does not align with the same values that the Bible professes, so therefore I do not endorse him.
Now, can I get him kicked out of the White House? Probably not. Am I going to go and act violently towards his supporters? No, I am not.
But neither do I choose to condone his actions or look at him through rose-tinted lenses.
Finally, I want to say, to all of you who are feeling marginalised by Trump and his followers right now: I see you. I stand with you. You DO matter. And there is a God in heaven who loves you.
Keep fighting, coz it can't rain forever. The sun has to come out sometime.
Bless
Melanie Raye.
Before I begin, I want to say that I know a lot of you are currently feeling a lot of feelings about the presidential election. Please trust my heart when I say that I have no intention of adding to your pain and confusion by discussing my thoughts and feelings here.
With that said, I know that I need to make this post today, and I will tell you why.
Yesterday, I was in church, just like basically every Sunday morning. The preacher was nearing the end of his message, when he somehow randomly segwayed into talking about the presidential election. And then, he said it. "I think we could even call Donald Trump's election as president to be a miracle". A few people in the congregation cheered and clapped.
But me? I just made myself as small in my seat as I could, and all I could manage was a quiet, desperate whisper: "no...no...".
You see, I was not prepared in that moment to share my thoughts. Neither do I think it would have necessarily been the right moment or the right platform in which to voice my opinion. It's not my pulpit, after all.
But for the last 24 hours, I have felt sick to my stomach. I believe that the standard I walk past is the standard I accept, and I know that evil prevails when good men do nothing (Edmund Burke).
Therefore, it is time that I spoke up. I cannot be silent anymore.
I hope you will believe that "my words come from an upright heart. My lips sincerely speak what I know" (Job 33:3).
I have unfortunately seen some people speaking in such a way that it appears that they believe that Donald Trump is a good voice to have in authority, from a Christian perspective. So, in response to this, I am going to make some comparisons between what the Bible says and what Trump says, since the Bible implores us to "test everything, and hold on to what is good" (1st Thessalonians 5:21).
Now, some of you are probably saying "But what about Hillary?" Trust me, if she were the one in power, I could easily complete this same exercise with her. (Psalm 139, anyone?) But she has not just been elected POTUS, so she is not my concern right now.
So here goes:
The Bible says: The love of money is the root of all evil. (1st Timothy 6:10).
Trump says: Money money money money, MONEY! (The Apprentice Theme Song).
The Bible says: Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouth, but only what is sufficient for building others up, according to their needs, so that it benefits everyone who is listening. (Ephesians 4:29).
Trump says: "It was just locker room talk".
The Bible says: The Lord detests differing weights, and dishonest scales do not please him. (Proverbs 20:23).
Trump: brags about tax evasion. (And even though there is the question of whether his dealings were "legal" or not, that is a different issue from whether or not it was morally right).
The Bible says: I was a stranger, and you invited me in. (Matthew 25:35).
Trump says: Let's send all the illegal immigrants back to where they came from. Let's build a wall between us and Mexico. Oh, and they have to pay for it, too.
And for those of you who might get stuck on the train of "it's just the illegal immigrants he wants to get rid of", remember: Jesus was basically an illegal immigrant too, when he and his parents escaped to Egypt as a young child. Also, remember, "Whatever you do to the least of these, my children, you also do to me" (Matthew 25:40). Right now, I would say that the "least of these" is anyone that has felt threatened or marginalised by Trump and his supporters.
The Bible says: When Jesus saw his mother there, and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to her, “Woman, here is your son,” and to the disciple, “Here is your mother.” From that time on, this disciple took her into his home. (John 19:25-27).
This passage shows that Jesus respected women, and ensured that they would be cared for.
Trump says: I'll just let you look this one up yourselves...
The Bible says: The worker deserves his wages (1 Timothy 5:18).
Trump says: I want all the jobs to go to American workers.
(That doesn't really give workers of other nationalities a fair chance to earn their wages, does it?)
So there you have it.
In my eyes, Trump does not align with the same values that the Bible professes, so therefore I do not endorse him.
Now, can I get him kicked out of the White House? Probably not. Am I going to go and act violently towards his supporters? No, I am not.
But neither do I choose to condone his actions or look at him through rose-tinted lenses.
Finally, I want to say, to all of you who are feeling marginalised by Trump and his followers right now: I see you. I stand with you. You DO matter. And there is a God in heaven who loves you.
Keep fighting, coz it can't rain forever. The sun has to come out sometime.
Bless
Melanie Raye.
Monday, 15 August 2016
These are a few of my favourite things...(or, you know, 30 of them...) :)
Hello friends! Thought it was time I did another one of these :) Enjoy!
1. My favourite animal is kittens.
2. My
favourite restaurant is Genghis Khan.
3. My
favourite food is spaghetti bolognese.
4. My
favourite drink is vanilla coke.
5. My favourite
movie of all time is The Sound of Music.
6. My
favourite books are Little Women by Louisa May Alcott and Charlotte's Web by E.B. White.
7. My
favourite colour is navy blue.
8. My
favourite composer is Ludovico Einaudi.
9. My favourite Broadway musical is Wicked.
10. My favourite song is Defying Gravity (from the aforementioned Wicked).
10. My favourite song is Defying Gravity (from the aforementioned Wicked).
11. My
favourite scents are sweet pea and jasmine.
12. My favourite band is ABBA.
13.
My favourite item of clothing is my blue dress with the gold stars.
14. My favourite dessert is soy chocolate mousse.
15. My favourite singer is Idina Menzel.
16. My favourite season is autumn.
17. My favourite TV show currently is Grey's Anatomy.
18. My favourite TV show of all time is
Full House.
19. My favourite actor is Hugh Laurie.
20. My favourite actress is Julie Andrews.
21. My favourite Disney princess is Belle.
22. My favourite fruit is mandarins.
23. My favourite vegetable is corn on the cob.
24. My favourite board game is Articulate.
25. My favourite pastime is seeing live theatre shows.
26. My favourite form of exercise is dancing.
27. My favourite number is four.
28. My favourite cookie is peanut butter choc chip.
29. My favourite nickname that people call
me is “Mellie-bean”.
30. My favourite place that I have traveled to is Salzburg, Austria.
Love,
Melanie Raye.
Wednesday, 6 July 2016
Creativity Unleashed
Hello readers!
Part of my centre's philosophy relates to encouraging creativity in the children and providing a stimulating environment for them, so today I would like to share with you about a few of the great creative experiences that I have been doing with the two year olds in my classroom.
I love inspiring children to use everyday objects in interesting ways to create art. This innovative approach to using resources relates to the Tataiako competency of Wananga (Communication, Problem Solving, and Innovation).
It also links to one of the Te Whaariki learning outcomes in Communication Goal 4, which says "Children develop skill and confidence with the processes of art and craft".
The first experience we did was cotton reel painting. I selected several different shaped cotton reels that produced different patterns. As the children stamped the cotton reels onto the paper, some of them recognised the different patterns, and could also distinguish which cotton reels produced the same pattern. This kind of visual discrimination will actually help the children when they learn to recognise letters and numerals later on.
After the success of the cotton reel painting, I decided to share with the children another everyday object that we could use to make art- this time it was fly swats. For this experience, I got large pieces of paper and invited the children to do the painting in groups of three or four. This encouraged collaboration, a sense of group ownership over the experience, and spatial awareness as they worked together to cover the whole sheet of paper with fly swat patterns, without going over the top of their friends' fly swat prints too much. This links to the Te Whaariki Exploration Goal 4 learning outcome "Children develop an understanding of how two-dimensional objects can be fitted together in space".
It also relates to Te Whaariki Contribution Goal 3: "Children experience an environment where they are encouraged to learn with and alongside others".
Finally, we did "car track" painting. One of the children's current interests in our room right now is transport, so I took that as inspiration for this experience, and we dipped toy cars into paint and rolled them across the paper. Since doing the fly swat painting as a group had been such a success, I decided to do the car track painting in a group with a large piece of paper, too. My ability to consider the children's interests and create experiences based on these relates to my competence in knowing about my learners and their learning, and this relates to the Pou of Matauranga in He Pou Tataki.
Where to from here?
I believe that children are naturally creative beings, and as such it is likely that creativity will continue to be an interest for the children in my room on an ongoing basis. I am undertaking a self-review at the moment about how I can provide a better variety of resources and experiences for children to be creative with, so if you have any suggestions, I would love to hear them! In the meantime, I am enjoying sharing my learning with other teachers, just like I am doing with all of you whom are reading this blog :)
Links to Practising Teacher Criteria:
Key link: #5i: actively contribute to the professional learning community.
Other links: 6, 8, 9, 12.
Bless,
Melanie Raye.
Part of my centre's philosophy relates to encouraging creativity in the children and providing a stimulating environment for them, so today I would like to share with you about a few of the great creative experiences that I have been doing with the two year olds in my classroom.
I love inspiring children to use everyday objects in interesting ways to create art. This innovative approach to using resources relates to the Tataiako competency of Wananga (Communication, Problem Solving, and Innovation).
It also links to one of the Te Whaariki learning outcomes in Communication Goal 4, which says "Children develop skill and confidence with the processes of art and craft".
The first experience we did was cotton reel painting. I selected several different shaped cotton reels that produced different patterns. As the children stamped the cotton reels onto the paper, some of them recognised the different patterns, and could also distinguish which cotton reels produced the same pattern. This kind of visual discrimination will actually help the children when they learn to recognise letters and numerals later on.
After the success of the cotton reel painting, I decided to share with the children another everyday object that we could use to make art- this time it was fly swats. For this experience, I got large pieces of paper and invited the children to do the painting in groups of three or four. This encouraged collaboration, a sense of group ownership over the experience, and spatial awareness as they worked together to cover the whole sheet of paper with fly swat patterns, without going over the top of their friends' fly swat prints too much. This links to the Te Whaariki Exploration Goal 4 learning outcome "Children develop an understanding of how two-dimensional objects can be fitted together in space".
It also relates to Te Whaariki Contribution Goal 3: "Children experience an environment where they are encouraged to learn with and alongside others".
Finally, we did "car track" painting. One of the children's current interests in our room right now is transport, so I took that as inspiration for this experience, and we dipped toy cars into paint and rolled them across the paper. Since doing the fly swat painting as a group had been such a success, I decided to do the car track painting in a group with a large piece of paper, too. My ability to consider the children's interests and create experiences based on these relates to my competence in knowing about my learners and their learning, and this relates to the Pou of Matauranga in He Pou Tataki.
Where to from here?
I believe that children are naturally creative beings, and as such it is likely that creativity will continue to be an interest for the children in my room on an ongoing basis. I am undertaking a self-review at the moment about how I can provide a better variety of resources and experiences for children to be creative with, so if you have any suggestions, I would love to hear them! In the meantime, I am enjoying sharing my learning with other teachers, just like I am doing with all of you whom are reading this blog :)
Links to Practising Teacher Criteria:
Key link: #5i: actively contribute to the professional learning community.
Other links: 6, 8, 9, 12.
Bless,
Melanie Raye.
Saturday, 2 July 2016
I contain multitudes.
Hello friends!
My good friend Corrigan Vaughan posted this story on twitter today:
http://www.treknews.net/2016/07/01/rihanna-is-a-bigger-star-trek-fan-than-you/
I have got feelings about this, and I need to share them.
Here's the thing, guys. Rihanna can like Star Trek if she wants to. And even if she didn't, and just chose to make her "Sledgehammer" video tie in to Star Trek because that was her best option at the time, that still wouldn't give anyone the right to jump all over her about it like some silly people have done. Rihanna is quite capable of steering her own rudder on the ship of her life.
My two favourite podcasters, Corrigan Vaughan and Kristin Latourelle of the Electric Fancave introduced me to the saying "Women contain multitudes". And it's true. You will be hard pressed to ever find two women who are made up exactly the same way, with the same sets of hobbies and interests, the same dress sense, and the same beliefs and values. And that's a beautiful thing. It's what makes us unique. So when people start losing their lids over Rihanna being a Star Trek fan, I get a little concerned.
See, I'm a mish-mash of different, seemingly incompatible likes and dislikes myself.
I love wearing pretty dresses, BUT I am most comfortable in sweatshirts and jeans.
I love classical music, AND I love 90's boy bands.
I love romantic comedies AND action-packed spy movies.
I hate wearing make-up, BUT I am never seen without my favourite lip gloss.
I can't play video games myself (because I have zero coordination), BUT I think that "Portal" has a great storyline.
I contain multitudes. And so do you. And so does Rihanna.
So can we please, PLEASE stop chewing each other out every time someone breaks away from our preconceived narratives of how another person should act, think, or feel? Muchas gracias.
As always, I love you all. Go forth and embrace YOUR "multitudes", whatever they may be.
Bless
Melanie Raye.
My good friend Corrigan Vaughan posted this story on twitter today:
http://www.treknews.net/2016/07/01/rihanna-is-a-bigger-star-trek-fan-than-you/
I have got feelings about this, and I need to share them.
Here's the thing, guys. Rihanna can like Star Trek if she wants to. And even if she didn't, and just chose to make her "Sledgehammer" video tie in to Star Trek because that was her best option at the time, that still wouldn't give anyone the right to jump all over her about it like some silly people have done. Rihanna is quite capable of steering her own rudder on the ship of her life.
My two favourite podcasters, Corrigan Vaughan and Kristin Latourelle of the Electric Fancave introduced me to the saying "Women contain multitudes". And it's true. You will be hard pressed to ever find two women who are made up exactly the same way, with the same sets of hobbies and interests, the same dress sense, and the same beliefs and values. And that's a beautiful thing. It's what makes us unique. So when people start losing their lids over Rihanna being a Star Trek fan, I get a little concerned.
See, I'm a mish-mash of different, seemingly incompatible likes and dislikes myself.
I love wearing pretty dresses, BUT I am most comfortable in sweatshirts and jeans.
I love classical music, AND I love 90's boy bands.
I love romantic comedies AND action-packed spy movies.
I hate wearing make-up, BUT I am never seen without my favourite lip gloss.
I can't play video games myself (because I have zero coordination), BUT I think that "Portal" has a great storyline.
I contain multitudes. And so do you. And so does Rihanna.
So can we please, PLEASE stop chewing each other out every time someone breaks away from our preconceived narratives of how another person should act, think, or feel? Muchas gracias.
As always, I love you all. Go forth and embrace YOUR "multitudes", whatever they may be.
Bless
Melanie Raye.
Wednesday, 4 November 2015
My Reflection for the Week 2-6 Nov 2015
The question
I would like to investigate this week is:
What are the
benefits to myself and the children in learning Māori waiata?
The Practising Teacher Criteria says:
Key Link:
10. work effectively within the bicultural
context of Aotearoa New Zealand.
i) practise and develop the relevant use of te reo Māori me ngā tikanga-a-iwi in context.
i) practise and develop the relevant use of te reo Māori me ngā tikanga-a-iwi in context.
Other Links:
2 ii. acknowledge and respect
the languages, heritages and cultures of all ākonga.
3. demonstrate commitment to bicultural
partnership in Aotearoa New Zealand
i) demonstrate respect for the heritages, languages and cultures of both partners to the Treaty of Waitangi.
i) demonstrate respect for the heritages, languages and cultures of both partners to the Treaty of Waitangi.
9 i. demonstrate knowledge and understanding of social
and cultural influences on learning, by working effectively in the bicultural
and multicultural contexts of learning in Aotearoa New Zealand.
Recently, as
I was teaching the tamariki a basic group clapping game, I shared with them
that Māori children through the ages have sat together and played clap games
too. This inspired me with the idea that Māori waiata can be used as a
springboard for teaching them about Māori heritage, culture, and values. It
doesn’t need to be complicated or in depth – just a sentence or two
acknowledging Māori culture, used as an introduction to a song, can be enough.
One example could be the waiata Tohora nui, which is about a big whale. This could link to a discussion about the sea and sea animals and the special connection that Māori have with these.
One example could be the waiata Tohora nui, which is about a big whale. This could link to a discussion about the sea and sea animals and the special connection that Māori have with these.
These small nuggets of information help to gradually enlarge children’s
world view, as they simultaneously embrace their perspectives and validate the
perspectives of other cultures (this links to a Te Whariki Contribution Goal 3
learning outcome which says “Children develop an increasing ability to take
another’s point of view and to empathise with others.”) Also, when you explain
to children what the Māori waiata mean, it can help children to gain an
understanding of te reo Māori as a living and relevant language (Te Whariki
communication goal 2 learning outcome).
-
Ako
Aotearoa recognises the importance of Māori waiata and the role it plays in
language acquisition in Te Reo Māori. The benefit is multi-faceted – not only
is it easier to recall new words when you have previously used them in a waiata
(e.g. by remembering the Māori colours through sing the song “Ma is white”), but
the sentence structures within Māori waiata reflect correct Māori sentence
structure and syntax, making it simpler to learn how to create simple sentences
in the Māori language when speaking.
-
Finally,
I believe that when Te Whariki says in a learning outcome in Communication goal
4 that “children develop an increasing familiarity with a selection of
songs that are valued by the cultures in the community”, its meaning goes
deeper than children just “knowing the words”. It is one thing to be able to
sing a song by rote from memory, and another thing entirely to understand a
song and connect to the heart and emotions in it.
This is why I think that little introductory discussions about Māori waiata prior to singing them with the children are so important. It opens the door for us to discuss things like “the person in this song is feeling very happy, or strong, or they are worshipping God”. This has the added benefit of developing children’s emotional intelligence, and they might even find that sometimes they want to express their feelings through songs and music too.
This is why I think that little introductory discussions about Māori waiata prior to singing them with the children are so important. It opens the door for us to discuss things like “the person in this song is feeling very happy, or strong, or they are worshipping God”. This has the added benefit of developing children’s emotional intelligence, and they might even find that sometimes they want to express their feelings through songs and music too.
As I
incorporate these Māori waiata into my teaching, and talk about waiata and
their meanings with the children, I am developing the Tataiako competency of
Manaakitanga, in that I am demonstrating respect for Māori culture through the
“delivery process” of presenting waiata respectfully to the children. Also, I
am developing the Tataiako competency of Tangata whenuatanga, as I present
cultural knowledge to the children alongside the waiata.
With all
this in mind, over the Christmas holidays I am going to learn 2 new simple Māori
waiata and the meanings and cultural links that those waiata have for Māori, so
I can return next year and teach them to the children. Also, I will seek to
educate others on the many benefits of learning Māori waiata, for both kaiako
and tamariki.
Sunday, 26 July 2015
Breaking Down the Fruit of the Spirit of Self-Control
Hey friends! Lately I have been thinking about the fruit of the spirit of self-control, and all the different aspects of this fruit, so I thought I'd share a little breakdown of my thoughts with you.
Some of it is based on things I have read, and some is based on my own personal revelations.
First, self-control = resisting temptation to instigate or participate in evil thoughts, words, or actions. This is kinda the obvious one.
Second, self-control = self - responsibility. Taking care of your own chores/work/study etc, not expecting someone else to do it for you. And if you have a issue that you can't resolve alone, you responsibly seek help from experts who are qualified to support you (eg teachers). Also, take responsibility for any mistakes you may make. Third, self-control = self care. Only you (and God) really know what you need, so take it upon yourself to get enough sleep and exercise, eat everything in moderation, have enough alone time and enough social time, seek help from doctors, counselors, etc as necessary to maintain your physical and emotional health. Fourth, self- control = self-management. Another word for this is autonomy. This is something you gradually develop throughout your life. It involves making decisions for yourself, such as what your boundaries are, what kind of company you choose to keep, what you will study at university (and possibly where you will study it), managing your financial situation and obligations, deciding where you will work, etc. And fifth, self-control = self - regulation. It spans from the idea that even a good thing in too large a quantity is no longer beneficial. It means being able to say no to yourself sometimes. This could involve not taking another biscuit when you have already had three, not spending all day in bed when there are other obligations already in place, not spending all night on Facebook when you have an assignment to finish, etc. Again, all these things are great, as long as they are done in moderation. E.g Facebook is a wonderful social tool, but it becomes unhealthy when it starts to consume your life and take up all your time. I hope this is helpful for you, dear readers!
Love,
Melanie Raye.
Some of it is based on things I have read, and some is based on my own personal revelations.
First, self-control = resisting temptation to instigate or participate in evil thoughts, words, or actions. This is kinda the obvious one.
Second, self-control = self - responsibility. Taking care of your own chores/work/study etc, not expecting someone else to do it for you. And if you have a issue that you can't resolve alone, you responsibly seek help from experts who are qualified to support you (eg teachers). Also, take responsibility for any mistakes you may make. Third, self-control = self care. Only you (and God) really know what you need, so take it upon yourself to get enough sleep and exercise, eat everything in moderation, have enough alone time and enough social time, seek help from doctors, counselors, etc as necessary to maintain your physical and emotional health. Fourth, self- control = self-management. Another word for this is autonomy. This is something you gradually develop throughout your life. It involves making decisions for yourself, such as what your boundaries are, what kind of company you choose to keep, what you will study at university (and possibly where you will study it), managing your financial situation and obligations, deciding where you will work, etc. And fifth, self-control = self - regulation. It spans from the idea that even a good thing in too large a quantity is no longer beneficial. It means being able to say no to yourself sometimes. This could involve not taking another biscuit when you have already had three, not spending all day in bed when there are other obligations already in place, not spending all night on Facebook when you have an assignment to finish, etc. Again, all these things are great, as long as they are done in moderation. E.g Facebook is a wonderful social tool, but it becomes unhealthy when it starts to consume your life and take up all your time. I hope this is helpful for you, dear readers!
Love,
Melanie Raye.
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